Monday, September 28, 2009


i have often wondered..what is it about relationships which makes them so complex?is it love,hope hate or what..every time the conclusion i get to is that more often than not it is the expectations that gets the better of people..

but why?why should we expect anyone to be as we want them to?it becomes very difficult for anybody to fit into the mold of our expectations..taking an example..if you are standing on top of a ten floor building then even a nine floor building would appear small to you..not because the building isnt tall but because of your perspective of things..

most of the times it is our expectations that create the problem in our lives..we in our expectations seem to overlook the qualities of the people we is but human to expect but it isnt necessary that all our expectations are fulfilled..

what we must try and understand is that when there is someone in our lives we love very dearly..could be anyone..our parents,siblings,friends or spouses then it is not only their qualities that we love..we were not given the option of loving selectively by god..when we love somebody we should own their faults as readily as we own their qualities..their faults are as much a part of their personality as their good traits..nobody was born perfect..learning is an essential phase of life..we learn as we grow..and it is our moral duty as humans to help each other to become better..and if we try and think about it then we shall realize that it is adversity and imperfection that bring people closer..trying to understand and amend each others faults is one of the essentials of a relationship..summing up with these lines

all night i was lost in deep thought,
over the things i love in you and those i love not,
and after thinking all this while,
i told myself that i love your smile,
i love the stammer in your voice,
and your indecision when you have to make a choice,
i love the way you hold my hand,
when the tension is too much for you to stand,
and somewhere in my heart below,
why i love you i had started to know,
you qualities, yes i do adore,
but it is your faults that make me love you more...

Friday, September 18, 2009

through the glasses of old age..

my over active imagination often catches hold of me..just yesterday..when i was sitting back..i began wondering how it would feel to be old..what would be the thoughts of a man who has seen so much of life..what would be the thoughts that cross their minds when they look back and i came up with this...


how long i have lived i cannot say,
i cannot count how many times i have seen the day,
to be short its been very very long,
though my mind is weak yet my memory is strong.
when i look back as far as i can see in time,
i can say life's been good,if not sublime.
i remember the hamlet of my childhood days,
the mango trees,the epic plays,
the grassy fields and the dirty fens,
and the little lads i called my friends.
i remember the mud walls of our house,
and the feline traind to catch the mouse.

i have seen my father work on the field,
and slept meal less when the crop didn't yield,
i have passed the school after sleepless nights,
and stared astonished at the town's sights.

i have worked overtime and accepted low pay,
i have woken all night and slept all day,
i have raised our status and made them proud,
i have screamed and cried and laughed out loud.
i have sinned all sins known to man,
i have planned and i have failed to plan.

i have listened to the fairer when she did prod,
for i am but the man and not the God,
i have loved,betrayed and been betrayed,
i have seen love grow and seen it fade,
i married the girl who stood by my side,
she was my weakness and my source of pride,
i have seen my love when it was immensely strong,
and other times when we didn't know whether we should go on.

i have seen two new lives in front of my eyes,
i have laughed their laughs and cried their cries,
i have taught them to walk and taught them to speak,
i have slept by their side when they were weak.
i have seen them learn and seen them grow,
i have seen them come and seen them go.

i have seen my lady go through unbearable pain,
and have seen all the medication go in vain,
and after her life has been all lost,
and life costs more than death would cost.
but i have learned to come to terms with loss,
and learned to smile when life is gross.

and looking back on life i feel no regret,
on things i have lost and the things i didn't get.
i have reaped every seed that i had sown,
and from my failures i have grown.
and now when i have come of age,
as he said the world has been a stage,
a journey full of astonish and surmise,
of expectation,grief,hope and surprise.
of every gain you pay a price,
and nostalgically i do realize,
that i have been the friend,the foe,the sinner and the sage,
when i look back through the glasses of my old age..

Tuesday, September 8, 2009


they say-"success is 99%perspiration and 1% inspiration."true..very true..with all the efforts you put in it is also highly relevant from where you draw that 1% inspiration..

how many times have you asked someone-"who is your inspiration?" and received answers like mahatma gandhi,mother teresa and other known names?innumerable times,i am sure..
with due respect to all the people mentioned above, if you ask me that question you wouldn't receive an answer like that..i believe in more of reality.i am inspired by someone more close to me,more near and more dear..

he is 87 years old..he lives with me in my house..his skin reflects his age..and his wrinkles are more to me than just a sign of his age..they are a mark of the innumerable troubles he faced in his life..i respect him more than i have ever respected any1..he is my guide..i call him babaji..

since the time i have the faintest of memories..when life was not so complex..i have memories of my grandfather..he looks exactly the same as he did ten years ago..i have always been close to him..but with the years passing by..the fondness has turned into a deep rooted respect..

i remember how i ate from his plate when i was small..since i know he has been very quiet..but whenever he speaks it is always about something that teaches us a lesson.most of the things i know today..about life..about people are a result of prolonged conversations with him.i have never hesitated to talk to him..he somehow falls into my sphere of comfort completely.i wouldn't hesitate to say that i talk to him more than i talk to mom and dad..because he has seen so much in life..and i am just an amateur..the age difference never comes between us..

it amazes me how he does all his work himself.and he doesn't like to depend on anybody for his work..he is more active than any of the people of his age..

just how attached i am to him makes me very happy to be with not such an old incident..i was upset about an argument i had with mom and couldn't hold back during breakfast..he never said anything at that time..but 4-5 hours later when i was leaving from my coaching, i saw tears rolling from his first i didnt understand..but then he said-"tumhe kya laga?tum rogi aur ham dekh lenge?"..i couldnt help feel helpless and happy at that moment..just the thought that he was so concerned overwhelmed me..and like many times before i thanked god for giving me such a beautiful family of which he was the root..i thanked my stars that i had him..and while i was thanking god i didn't realize when i choked and when the water filled my eyes..i just patted his hand and left..i didnt have to say anything..silence communicated our feelings the best..

today as i write this i feel very fortunate to have such a lovely family..everybody holds a special place in my heart..and im lucky to have everyone..of the 1% inspiration..while 60% is occupied by the rest of the family..40% is grandpa..though i have tried my best but the admiration i have for him cannot be written down in one is inexplicable..

i am fortunate to have u babaji..thank u for being my guide..

thank u for being my inspiration..

Saturday, September 5, 2009

things that werent said..

life..that is probably the hardest word to define..the dictionary meaning is not enough for satisfaction..frankly..most people pass their whole life and still cant find any precise answer to this question..maybe because there isnt any is different to everybody..the definition of life depends on the perspective of a the optimist its a path of the pessimist its a painful the escapist its a reason to die..

i have never been an escapist..atleast i dont think so..since the time i gained consciousness of the world and the people around me..i have had few reasons to complain..a wonderful family..and good people to live with..but i wouldnt deny being a pessimist at times..but mostly i am an optimist..the times that i did go into the pessimist tendency was when i went through huge changes in my life..

y am i writing all this..?that is somethin im sure most people would be wondering..because today is one such day..a change has happened..a very significant one in my life..someone dear has just left home..

we have never really been the typical type of siblings..we never spoke to each other about serious,relevant and deep issues apart from studies..we have had our share of fights..nasty ones too..but in the past few years that had sucumbed..and though i never told you about my problems,i sumhow have the feeling you always figured out..i dont know how!!we never really told each other things like-"im there",but it was always evident..we never really said that we are fond of each other.but that is alright to me..because i hav always believed that words limit emotions..

the past few days..i cannot forget how we made "suji" at 12 in the night..i cannot forget how u played the guitar and asked me to sing(terribly out of scale)..i cannot forget how u grinned at the thought of me fainting aftr my blood test..i cannot forget how after just looking at me u said-"arrey!!tum to phool gayi ho"..i cannot forget how we got hungry at the same time always..and i know i couldnt have said all this to you..and maybe if you think the same u would hav never said it to me..but again..words limit emotions..

i had become so used to that "rabbit teeth smile" of feels weird when u arnt around..even if you hardly said anything..this post is specially dedicated to u bhai..

so..wherever u are..know best wishes are with you..all the best for ur goa venture..moms n dads blessings are with you..

take care..

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

life goes on..and time moves by..

well i originally wrote this poem about 2 years back..when things were not going too good..i don't exactly remember what the issues were..but they were relevant enough for me to have felt the need to motivate not the sort of person who will talk to herself for motivation..i like to keep things calm and silent..thats probably why i went into the habit of writing at a very early age..this is just one of the many poems i wrote in the course of my life till date...


life goes on and time moves by,
and trobles arent here to stay,
for after every darkest night,
always comes the brightest day.

nothing can be so big and bad,
such that man cannot face,
and those who give up the hope,
have already lost the race.

in bad times only half will trust you,
and against you will be the other half,
be up,be going and make your efforts,
and you are sure to have the last laugh.

giving up should never be an option,
because success and failure is not in our hands,
but we must kep faith and move ahead,
and do what our duty demands.

ups and downs are bound to come,
like the inevitable day and night,
and the darkness should be faced with the same confidence,
with which we face sunlight.

so spread your wings and fly my friend,
and you are sure to teach the sky,
never lose hope and trust yourself,
for life goes on and time moves by...